You will probably love Focusing if…
- You are tired of fighting or battling anxiety or depression but you also don’t want to give up
- You are tired of trying to willpower your way through your issues
- You know that being in good relationship with yourself is key to being in good relationship with anyone else
- You’d like to discover what’s under the surface chatter of your mind
- You’d like to know yourself (even though maybe this also scares you)
- You’d like to be more present and less reactive
Focusing can be very helpful with things like:
- Anxiety (situation-specific or generalized) and depression
- Tension and tightness in your body (like, for example, your neck, jaw, back, head…)
- Difficult transitions
- Processing grief
- Life situations about which you have conflicted feelings
- Painful patterns
- Addictive & compulsive habits
- Little or big places of stuck: when you say you want something but can’t seem to get it or do it for all your wanting
After Focusing you will probably experience:
- Greater calm and ease in your body
- Clarity (or calmer in the face of things that aren’t yet clear)
- Greater understanding and kindness toward yourself
- Met and heard just as you are
- More able to do (or not do) something without the push-pull of willpower
- Decisions practically make themselves
- A sense that what was stuck has dissolved or resolved itself
- Movement and action that seems to happen on its very own
- Loosening and spaciousness where there was tightness
- A sense of possibility and curiosity about what comes next
Some things Focusing ISN’T:
Focusing ISN’T about fighting or battling anything. This comes as a great relief to many people for surely if it were about fighting you’d have won the battle a long time ago.
Likewise, Focusing isn’t about fixing or figuring things out.
That said, many people who Focus find great relief and change happening in relation to the very things they have spent so much energy battling and trying to fix.
Lastly, Focusing isn’t psychotherapy, though it can be a wonderful adjunct to psychotherapeutic work, especially for those of us who tend to “live in our heads.”
Who invented Focusing?
Focusing wasn’t so much invented as discovered by a brilliant psychotherapist and philosopher named Gene Gendlin, who then developed what he had observed into a teachable-learnable process that he called “Focusing.”
Currently, my favorite teachers of Focusing are Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin.